It is accurate to address our feelings regarding how we deal with anger. But what becomes difficult is implementing the behavior change to improve how we can elevate ourselves to handle anger and the anxiety associated with these feelings. Each of us has developed our own method of coping with uncomfortable situations. In the process of understanding the mechanism we develop, it would be helpful if we became open to personal inventory about who we are, and how we cope. In many situations  we cope by avoidance, isolation, depression, and aggression.